When Navratra takes a toll on me

Being a avid lover of music and dance I enjoy this festival a lot. The sound of the dandiya..especially when they come along together then those beautiful moves of garbha where your hand and body swing to the music and  that beat of the drum…all together in big ground where everyone is just bothered about themselves and nothing else…they call it being “magn” in hindi.

I sometimes wish I was born in a gujju family to enjoy this festival extensively. I think it also comes with a fact that I love to dance…and moving the way garbha requires you to move is fun..totally brings a smile on my face.

If you play a loud dandiya or garbha track around me..you will see my feet tapping and hands moving..coz I can’t stop. The music is exciting and attracting that you cannot let go of it.

By the way I write I am sure your thinking that I go do dandiya and garbha this time of every year but no… even though I whole like seriously WHOLE heartedly enjoy it but I don’t get to go. The music is so addictive for me that when I am travelling back from work..i think and feel the world around me doing garbha with this nice garbha music in the back drop..wow it would be if I could join them on the way :P (my crazy filmy dreams I tell you )..if I get a chance I would go all decked up in gujrati clothing and dance all the 9 days…so now you know how I like it.

Some songs that can make your feet go tapping are..

·         Pari hun main

·         Chand aaya hai zamin par – Dil hi dil main

·         Shubhaarambh  - kai po che

·         Womaniya – with some drum beats of garbha

·         Main toh bhul chali babul ka desh

·         Sherawaliye..

Saavn has an exclusive playlist of these songs..i loved it…I just have one thing to say…

Let the Raas begin… (for me in my head for you if you can go hit the garbha & Dandiya ground from tomorrow)

 

Are you on someone’s priority list?

I have come across this really negative and low feeling where I have had some friends whom I have shared a really great relationship with. Those friends have been the ones whom I have looked up to at point of happiness or sad times and yes they have looked up to sharing the same with me too.

With such friends or likeminded people when you start being around them for long, we start to get comfortable and want to be around with them more because of a simple reason that it makes you happy.

But we realize over a period of time that may be you are not that particular person’s priority as you had thought it had been. Sudden changes start to hit you when this starts to happen. You get so used to the comfort level of the person that the absence of that person makes you feel lost and worried.

I have for some strange reason come across these typical type of people a little less than frequently. And trust me I hate it when someone does that. Do not treat anyone like your priority if you will not sustain the relationship for long. And it does not just happen in a couple relationships where there is marriage or love but it also happens between friends where the hurt is equivalent to that of couples.

I have set my priority people right…but I still come across those who make me feel like iam their priority and my heart gets compelled to give in…and then a time comes when your thought does not even strike them. It hurts!! Honestly it does. But then over a period of time you have to make yourself realize  that may be it was good that they went away for various reasons which could be

1.       Too many people in your priority list can get difficult to handle.No one gets the right attention and you become the cruel one even you dont want to.

2.       After they go you realize you wasted so much time on them instead you could use it on the others who deserved it better

3.       One definite reason is the ones who deserve your attention start getting it..even though they never complained  about it but tried ..tried to be there with you always.

So get your priority people right!! And yes don’t forget to tell them because expressing gratitude always brings happiness.

The ‘One Loving Person” who lasts forever

I consider people who have that one loving person in their life’s very lucky. No not all of us are lucky. You must want to say there is a difference of opinion... We might have that very person in our lifes.But they are either too far for us to reach when we really want them around or no one has really expressed that deep concern for you yet.

Everyone wants that one special person around them who loves them the most, who cares not 100% but 50% with heart and soul in it and not halfheartedly. These ‘one loving person’ type of people just make others life easy and help making the best use of their life’s and give the best memories even in the sad times.

‘One loving person’ makes sure even by being far leaves his presence around. This person would make sure to be around in your bad…and you’re good. Will make sure you don’t get those times that you hate yourself.. This person would make you fall in love with yourself…and not hate. Nothing stops them from getting up in the middle of the night even if you are 100 miles away to call and tell you that they just love you for what you are. These people believe you as the person who will do anything for them and will do the same for you in return.

They sense the sadness in their loved ones voice the quickest…and they know to get it out best…even better than your own parents or family can. They would make sure you know when you are remembered…even if it was a vegetable at a random place that reminded them of you….this person would know and help you deal with every other person you come across in your lifetime

They do it all. But what they do best is…let you know how much they love you for whatever kind of person you are… (Yes I write that in bold as this is that one quality that separates them from the aam janta we live with. These are treasured people. You will definitely not find them in abundance) and when they tell you that they will be there with you always…you will be convinced and trust me you know they wouldn’t lie. Because they have never proved you wrong or let you down in showing their love for you.

Some find this love in parents. In their siblings….their life partners…some in their kids too…

While some are really lucky to have all of them around...the others just have too many people around but not even one loving person among them.

Today for once just be glad to have that one person in your life that you think is the ‘one loving person’ of your life who would last forever…                                                                                                                     

Some lines by George carlin which describe the “one loving person”

1. Remembers, to say, 'I love you' to your partner and your loved ones, but most of all means it. An embrace will mend hurt when it comes from deep inside of you.

2. Remembers to hold hands and cherish the moment for someday that person will not be there again.

3. Give time to love, give time to speak! And give time to share the precious thoughts in your mind.

My 3 Wishes for today and for a while now..

The 3 things that I wish I could have are… today and for a while now I have been badly craving for these things to happen.

 

1.       I want to stay with my mother and sisters along with my pretty nieces for a longer time. I realize how important they are and how much I miss them only after I am married which means we live in different cities. And my life is so packed right now that I can’t go and stay with them for a few days. In those few days by the time my nieces start to realize who I am it’s time for me to get back to my routine life. Even a vacation would do well with them.

2.       I am just being a little selfless and selfish at the same time in this second wish. I want my husband to get what he wants out of his job this year so that if that works better I am assuming he would be able to come home faster or rather leave home a little late and take a few more offs than he does in a year.. Just so that we get to spend more time with each other. I badly want him to relax. This wish is totally based on my assumption that life will get easier after he gets what he wants out of his job this year.

3.       Get thin all by doing nothing …Eat, eat, eat ….and not get fat….Just like every other girl I wish this. I thank god for not making me really fat but I am on the plump side and I don’t like it and I am too short which eventually makes me look fat L …I try to work on it but It just gets tougher after a while.. I tend to give up every time I start. So I just wanting to be thin and also considering I love to eat. Let me eat peacefully without worrying that I will never be able to get fat with the entire calorie intake I do.

Naya Ghar – Na-pasand…..

Just when we started liking the house we were staying in the owner asked us to vacate the house for his relatives (he couldn’t say a no coz their relative was dealing with cancer and the treatment takes too long a time…and we dint have a choice to say no)…so the search had begun for a perfect house to stay in….and the house we have moved in was chosen becoz of three reasons

1. Coz it is spacious and not compact as the others in this area

2. It makes PD’s travel to office convenient

3. Falls in our budget…yes its so important to have a house fall in the budget you want it to in Mumbai (the city of kharcha)

So we moved into this naya ghar on this Saturday….the first day went on with all unpacking and cleaning of the house….we realized the kitchen was extremely dirty and decided to call the house cleaners and they charged us 1100 just to do the cleaning of the kitchen..we couldn’t help it….we had to pay it considering the fact that we have to stay in this house for the next 5 months for sure….thats how the annoying contract is….so we cannot do anything about it…  …not to forget to mention PD has been at his best since this Saturday….he has been doing all he can….with this crazy woman who is so scared of rats…

We unpacked the kitchen stuff on Sunday and I cooked a happy meal for us and we slept happily assuming we are well settled In this house ….and will get up in the morning to start the good beginning of the new house on Monday….but no….that was not what was in store for us…we woke up to see the terror in the kitchen the rats had created…they had eaten the tomatoes and kheera…left on the fridge...ate the wheat flour packet into bits and pieces to get the damn taste of the flour…How ugly and yuck can these rats be.

We got one of the rats removed on Sunday night..and then we figured out there is another one…so got the rat killing poison and had it placed every where….another went out yesterday ….and no they are not going to let us live happily…we figured out at 3.00 AM in the morning that there is another one in the hall…in the broken switch board which we have packed tight so that It doesn’t come out…iam not very gutsy to remove it myself and PD has left for work already and due to lack of time he hasn’t been able to do so too..so iam waiting for the broker to come and get it out…by noon…

I have a lot of reasons for not liking this house…if taken positively…they cannot be considered but thanks to this dreadful rat experience I don’t think I can like this house…and everything looks like a trouble to me…

Things I dislike in this naya ghar…

1. RATS – I hate animals…they beat the shit out of me….i wish I could sent them to jail for eating my house away…(nothing positive abt this one)

2. Dislike the door bell : it sings om bhur bhuvaswaha…It rings really low …( I should be liking it I know god is going to punish me for saying this but I cannot HELP disliking it)

3. Dirty walls: I hate the walls..the earlier residents did not keep the walls clean….they had too many kids who spoilt the walls… they make the house look ugly

4. Bed mattress : Its sssssoooo bad….the worst things in the house so far…we haven’t slept on it even once…

5. Smell : there is this typical smell In this house which is not leaving us to live happily…we’ve bought a room freshner..but the bad smell seems to beat the good smell.. 

6. Toilet : we are soon going to have the spray flash In the toilet its not there..we are using the mugga  ….indian system

Out of some good things in this house one is the windows…they are big…they make me want to keep them open all day long but I can’t unfortunately coz of the ugly irritating RATS….we have painting going on in our apartment …by which this irritating rats climb the bamboo sticks and come up and reside in our crazy house…

This house has been upsetting….it has just been so annoying to face something or the other every night and not have a good night’s sleep…

I miss the old house even though it had less of amenities and too much of dust…it was just perfect..and the society made me feel secure….in this area all I see is animals…dogs, rats, cats and what not… 

I want something good to happen to me and PD. Something we both can rejoice about n be happy. We are heading to manipal this weekend with my in-laws…(my first outing with my in-laws)…yes iam looking forward to it…also looking forward to seeing the memories PD shares with that place….

I hope manipals trip brings goodluck, wealth, happiness and the courage to our family to go thru all the bad times…for example the rat times  ….

Surprise your love today for what she is with you…

I have a hell lot of little ideas in my mind which I think men should do for their women… and let me tell you….some women just like the little things men do for them….i don’t think I want to comment on PD…cuz he is the worst of all men I have come across in giving anything for the matter of fact…I even suggest him to do a few things for me…but there is no hope in his case..….forget surprises….


These silly little tricks can make your women feel wanted….which is a right you being a man should give to your lady…and let me tell you…

These are basically for those men who are mstly held up at work for hours and hours…and your wifes wait for your focus, attention and LOVE after you come home…

Obviously these are surprises…and not the things you tell before you do..and don’t forget WOMEN LOVE SURPRISES

1. Get her a rose….oh ….dont forget a chocolate to accompany with it…

2. One day just ask her not to cook…and take her to a food joint she had been craving and raving about a few days back.

3. Write a sweet small letter or a note (don’t copy things from the internet- let it be original)

4. A small cake on a random day.. Saying I love you

5. Take her for an ice cream….late night

6. If she has been a big buff of movies…take her for a movie this weekend…and ask her if she would want to watch back to back movies and experience how it feels

7. Tell her how best she cooks something

8. Write just 4 to 5 lines saying - what I like about you : state 5 reasons…drop it on your bed before you leave to work.

9. One fine day a random materialistic present does wonders…women love gifts..

10. A final one…make sure you get home early on those special dates…. Anniversaries , birthdays etc….and make sure you don’t leave her alone…however bad it can get…if you miss out on it…give her the special feeling on the next day….or the same date of the next month to compensate….she will be surprised n will be delighted..

Remember that she deserves to be felt special…..coz shes the one who craves for your time, attention, focus and LOVE….as I said it before…Do it and let me know how she feels…you busy men….

Cricket Match Live!! And we lost!!!But am happy…

Thanks to PD’s firm we got two free passes to watch the Mumbai Indians match at Wankhade stadium…The delight on my face when PD called to tell me that we would be hitting off to see the match was so crazy…I was so excited…coz I would get to see all the players live and in front of me playing….


I was to reach the stadium by 8.00 Pm (and its obvious ppl reach late everywhere in Mumbai)…When the local was nearing the churchgate station…I could already hear the oooohhhss and aaahhss...and it looked so exciting and promising…

Till we reached we had already missed out the first 6 overs…and the crowd was in full swing….after reaching our seat …I must mention we were at the sachin stand… (although it was not that great to be in that stand coz all you get to see is his back…and nothing else…why on earth would he look back and wave at me…as I was not even right behind him)…

The view to the ground was good…it looked so filmy…the green green grass looked like they had put a light green carpet on the ground…the flashy lights looked like there was some major thing happening(yes the MI match is surely a major thing…but not when they end up losing with KKR)

MI played really bad…and when we got out right before the last over (coz the match happened to be pretty obvious win for KKR)..All we could hear ppl say is “every time I come to see the match.. MI loses the match”…I remember kids giving out a gujju version of that line too….almost everyone was saying it…and so was I …but it wasn’t that disappointing for me…I enjoyed every bit of the glam sham, noise, music, cheers…every little thing of it..

I screamed and roared in full swing every time when Mumbai was playing well… (Which hardly happened)…I participated in all the Mexican waves that passed by me... you hardly can hear anyone else except for the ones around you…so much noise after all…

All in all what an awesome and a time a to remember….you hardly can see the players coz they all look so teeny weeny from the top…but yes…who cares unless I got to see SACHIN live….…

The we came across PD’s colleagues who were sweet, generous and humored…with a lot of their office gossip we hit it off to pavilion(I think that was the name) at the Alpha to grab some pav bhaji at 2.00pm  …and they dropped us back home…No wonder Mumbai looks the best in the middle of the night with the sparkling lights..  ….



More to come…on the two best things that happened to me last Sunday…Ishaqzaade and Tea for two and a piece of cake  